Why do so many youth sexually desire their parent(s)?

[b4rry]

Although most studies of the frequency of various incestuous pairings say that incest between siblings and cousins of similar ages is the most common in every society studied, on the internet it seems more youth ask how to get sexual with their parent(s) than anything else.

Does anyone know why?

Does anyone have good advice to give all these youth at once (and therefore spare us all from having to repeat it nearly as often)?

[Iowa Guy]

Everything is about sex especially when your young, it comes at them from all directions. The movies, media, magazines, internet, their curiosity and maturing bodies, and from all their peers. Their just a big case of walking hormone's, girls and boys. Its no wonder they desire those closest to them, their parents and siblings are the first ones most of them see or glimpse naked and it sets their minds to thinking about the act of sex. The hugging, holding, and kissing is common in the family unit and closely mimics the mating ritual, generally with one exception, no actual sex just everything that leads up to it. Its no wonder most of them want to take it to its natural conclusion, the ultimate and total bond that can be shared between two people.
We only hear from a few in here and mostly males, I'd be willing to bet that most people have at least thought about having sex with their parents or children.

[b4rry]

But what would you tell the boy or girl who's wondering about how to approach the parent they desire?

It'd be nice if this thread develops to touch both the why of the desire and the how of the approach.

[shes2deviant]

I suspect that the desire is greater for younger men than younger girls, and that there might be a greater proportion of younger people who want sex with parents than there are active parent/child couples. I'd guess the reason for that has much more to do with the parents. I'd suspect that in a lot of cases (though obviously, not all), the parents regard their kids in a more nurturing way than a sexual way, and to be sexual with them is unthinkable.

I think there are even more parents who might just feel the sexual desire for their offspring, but would never act on it for fear of retribution, or even for fear of scarring the most important relationship they have. Most parents know that making sexual advances come with risks, and aren't willing to take the risks given their stronger instinct to protect and nurture.

As far as advice...I'd say that young people who want to be sexual with their parents need to let them know. Let your parent see you being sexual--put the thought in their heads. Let them catch you masturbating, looking at porn, or whatever. It always starts with subtle suggestions and if there is positive response, you can move to more overt gestures than that.

[beyondthenorm]

B4,

Great subject. I believe all of us have seen more of this phenomenon than we have desired on other sites. As a one of many Geeks who have been looking for many life answer from the infinite data out there.... I can say that the physics plays as big of a role in the acceptance as the emotional/moral role.

As for the study data, most feedback points towards the male sexuality side of incest as the biggest driver in Mother/son and Father/daughter. A father’s lust and a daughter’s curiosity can be a driver to a mutual sexual relationship. But, typically the son’s lust does not equate to a similar level of mother’s curiosity or shared lust. As expressed before, most son’s have sexual thoughts about their mother, including being the number one masturbation fantasy of teenage boys. Again, as stated many times before, there are a few unique conditions that can allow a mother to overcome her maternal nature and allow a sexual relationship to start with her son or daughter.

1st is Intoxication -
- This is a case where an intoxicated state can temporarily remove the boundaries to a incestuous relationship,. And, once the boundaries have been crossed, it can be easier to give in to other needs; like just being with a safe, trusting, sexual partners. As I shared before, I have a friend who could not handle being dumped by her husband of almost 20 years. She was actually suffering through some metal instability and was taking some major medications to try and deal with her depression. She would basically pass out when she went to bed. Over time, she noticed that she was waking up wet and sore. She suspected her older sons, and she then acted passed out without the medication to see if her suspicion were correct. Sure enough, the two older sons came in and slowly approach her, positioned her and had sex with her. She did not know what to do, so she continued playing asleep during the encounter, as she feared the traumatic impact of confronting them both about what they were doing.. She later realized, the cat was now out of the bag. She could either be honest with them and allow the sex to respectfully continue or create a very traumatic confrontation about how wrong it was. Between love, lust, neediness and lower inhibitions (boundaries already crossed), she simple gave in to the comfortable situation and it still continues today, at least with her two youngest unmarried sons.

2nd Mental or Sexual Instability -
- Many of the studies of known Oedipus relationships have shown that mothers that are suffering from some sort of psychosis (typically Bipolar or Schizophrenia) will not have the same inhibitions and will also be more needy of the security a son can offer.... Also, their judgement is skewed by the irrational or illogical mental processing. On example was a mother who believe it was a sin if either of her two sons should have an ejaculation external to the female receptacle. She obsessively worried that they would go to hell if they masturbated. She turned to using herself as the receptacle for both of her sons for years to save their souls...
- In some cases, especially with mothers at their sexual peek, a mother can have an insatiable sex drive. We have seen this on many posts from other incest sites; as these unsatisfied and/or venturous mothers find safe and loving satisfaction from their sons, On of my favorite postings, shared how much she appreciated that her son could satisfy her need for love and security, not just sexually needs. The realization for her was that her real dissatisfaction with everyone she had meet since her late husband was that the relationships only target sexual satisfaction, and mostly was poor at best in that area..

3rd Untraditional Environments -
- The most common untraditional environment is family nudist, as the first order of boundaries are already removed (being nude together). It also removes a son’s ability to hide any passionate feelings for his mother. This causes the honest discussions that S2D raised, to actually happen. A recent blog discussion from a European nudist family mother, shared that she noticed that as her son matured, he could not hide his erection that he got every time he was around her. It seems to not be an issue when he was just around his two sisters. It really brought her husband and her to discussion on the consequence of nudism (as her husband was raised in a nudist family). Her husband shared that he had the similar teen feelings for his mother and that his parents eventual encourage him to just masturbate when he was aroused by his mother. He also shared that masturbation in front of his mother was very arousing for him and still fantasies about it to that day. They agree to do the same with their son. But later a challenge came from the sibling curiosity (the husband had been an only child). This resulted in her making her son’s masturbation sessions a bit more private and her eventually masturbating him herself to make sure he would not continue his curiosity with his sisters.
- I also include religious drivers in this category. Many moons ago I had blog discussions with a couple of hard core Wiccian mothers who practice the true pagan beliefs of introducing their offsprings into the fertility phase of life, as a responsibility of the parents. They basically have removed the religious, social and legal limitations from their environment (to S2D’s point) and truly see it as a natural state between mother/son and father/daughter.

4th Unconditional Parental Love
- This is where very open minded mothers truly do anything to help, protect, please and benefit their children. They are the ones that always do without for their children welfare. They are the type that always massage their children, always holding them, scratching their backs, listening to them, complimenting them; simply supporting every aspect of pleasing their children. One mother would always go downstairs to check on her son before he went to bed and would massage all over his body while she would sing to him, to help him to go to sleep. Over time, she noticed he was getting aroused by the massages and asked him what he was thinking about. He noted that he was getting aroused by noticing that she does not wear underwear beneath her gown, and especially by her brief nudity after she has a shower (the family was also a bit less inhibited about nudity). She asked him if she should start being less revealing. He replied no, that he would prefer to see her more. So, instead of discontinuing her somewhat natural exposure to him, she turned to pleasing him (eventually masturbating him during/after the massages). She concluded, her son became a healthy, open-minded, loving college graduate. As she put it, so maybe love is the best justification in all decisions....

I am sure I missed a few conditions, but I am rambling enough and not getting to the point. \So, no matter if these shared experiences were real or someone’s faceless fantasy, it still follows the rules of natural sociological and psychological behaviors. So, thet seem to build on a realistic foundation for those who read them.

Now, to the point (finally, what a long winded butt-head)
Reality, similar aged children that grow up together (related or acquaintances), especially if the male is a year or so older, mature into their sexuality together. They act on the youthful curiosity together due to comfort, trust, similar environments, moralities, parenting, assessability, etc of the close relations. Parental involvement with their children (of all ages) has much more of the boundary and taboo limitations to affect the decisions. Even though the youthful curiosities does include the interest in the experiences and the taboo feelings of being with an adult (including their parents), it will continue to be more fantasy than the more realistic sibling/cousin relationships. Some the Fantasy interest that B4 refers to can be associated to the very curious 13-18 yo young lads reading the few real and so-called real mother/son experiences/stories and their own natural arousal for their mothers with be enhanced with the realistic details. They seem to get an increased arousal/satisfaction by publicly associating themselves to these realistic fantasies..

As for sons and daughters honestly sharing their interest with their parents, it is always better to be total honest in your feelings than trying to suppress them. If the relationship is very trusting, it is best to let the parents know how one feels, than suppressing, acting indifferent or eventually worse, acting inappropriately if it is not acceptable. I believe all agree, that in most cases, fathers will be more fearful and mothers will be more morally maternal (protecting their child first). This means that in most cases, the parents will be understanding of the natural interest, but not open to acting on the moral challenges. Yes, religious beliefs, laws and social acceptance will have a lot to do with the limitations, but there is some natural boundaries (especially in mothers) that are even harder to cross. It takes a very special parent to look at what is healthy to their physical /motional closeness of their relationship verse what is healthy (and safe) for their social integration (like S2D, which we can agree, she is uniquely special in this area).
Again, I apologize for the dissertation, but I seem to be going through incest withdraws for the past few weeks. I just hope that I do not get the S2D grammar check software all over my ego after my biblical attempt to a short answer (like - yes, I agree)....

BTN - Graham Green’s other bi-polar personality

[b4rry]

You forgot the bibliography!!!!! <tisk tisk>

[beyondthenorm]

My My, what has happened to my formating skills...... now I know why I didn't go after a PhD...

BTN - there is always someone smarter.....

[shes2deviant]

Positively ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[beyondthenorm]

With such a shortage of perfect asses in the world, it would be a shame to lose yours ..... (ok, not original, but you would have to watch Prince's Bride again to see where I differ)

BTN - a connaisseur of fine cabooses

[alextreme76]

its simple oedipal symptoms, everyone has it a little, we all are just more in tune with it. your parents are the archetype for everything in your life, you learn by watch them as you grow, and a big part of that is relationships. this is why we tend to date people who physical in some ways but emotionally more are like our opposite sex parent, its who you see as the perfect partner. simply look at anyone who had divorced parents or drunkard or bad parents in general, they tend to date the same scum with the same habits.... long way around it, whether anyone actually looks at their parents honestly and sexually, they are trying the rest of their life to fuck someone who is their parent

[Hotgirl45]

I'm sure all the consensual sex between parents and their sons or daughters is mostly to do with love, trust and safety. I know with my son I was pleased when we eventually had sex, it was of course because of the love we felt for each other, and that we also trusted each other to be kind and gentle when enjoying our lovemaking, and of course I was happy knowing that sex with me was safer than if he was having it elsewhere, where it was possible to get a STD. And I knew that I could satisfy him as much as any other woman.
Also I think we see a lot of sons/mother and father/daughter adventures on here because in many cases we are able to share our stories, and know just how they are feeling when they say they want sex with their parents.
I am now at the age of 63, and at the moment am living on my own, and what I'd give for my son to be living at home right now, as I think I am as hot for sex now as I have ever been. Any other Mums of my age who are still just as keen?.

[Martin1932]

I'm not a Mum, but my wife was older than me, and she enjoyed sex even at 70 although she was not into incest. My sis is about 60 and our get togethers altho infrequent are exciting for her. She has happily remarried, so the sex in her marriage must be good. Sadly I am a widower, but my daughter is now a willing and loving partner. Hotgirl 45, I agree with your comments about love, trust and safety.

[The Ass Man]

Although most studies of the frequency of various incestuous pairings say that incest between siblings and cousins of similar ages is the most common in every society studied, on the internet it seems more youth ask how to get sexual with their parent(s) than anything else.

Does anyone know why?

Does anyone have good advice to give all these youth at once (and therefore spare us all from having to repeat it nearly as often)?

I am more inclined to go after a sister or cousin. I am in no way attracted to my parents. Its just a turn on for me to see a mother and a son go at it. However i am not the one asking how to get my mother. But just thought i would put my 2 cents in on the subject